Or: How to Have an Adult Museum Experience … Without It Costing Too Much, Boring Your Kids, and Annoying Other Visitors
This
summer, my husband and I bought a house, renovated it while we were living
somewhere else temporarily, and then moved in.
During those long, expensive, and admittedly stressful weeks packing and
unpacking, painting until 10 p.m., and dealing with construction problems we
hadn’t anticipated, we relied heavily on family and friends to baby-sit our
toddler. We ended up burning through a
lot of babysitting goodwill in the process.
So this weekend, when we finally
had time to see a museum exhibition that I had been dying to get to, we ended
up toting our son with us.
We knew
that an art exhibition was too much to ask of a sixteen-month-old, so our plan
was to take turns seeing the show, with one parent at a time playing with our kid
on the lawn outside the museum building.
Here’s the problem: it rained buckets that day, and the museum
didn’t have a child-friendly indoor space.
Our options were: (1) to skip the
outing altogether, with the strong possibility that we would miss seeing the
exhibition before it closed, (2) have one parent stay home with our son, or (3)
put him in a backpack or stroller and go through on fast-forward so we didn’t bore
him to death and drive all of the other visitors crazy, all the while enduring
dirty looks from patrons who felt that the exhibition was no place for small
children. We chose the latter, lived
with the dirty looks, and left with regret that we hadn’t had a more relaxed
and focused experience.
Of course,
if we had the money, we would have avoided this problem by hiring a babysitter
to watch our son for the afternoon. But after paying for the gas to drive a
half-hour to get to the museum, paying general admission, and paying an
admission surcharge for the exhibition itself, we just couldn’t justify the
extra expense. The sitters in our
area charge $15 an hour!!
All of this
got me thinking. We can’t be the only
ones with this dilemma. Does being a parent of a small child mean
that adult museum programs are pretty much impossible to attend? Last year our children’s museum research showed
us that parents often do avoid art museums, likely due to this dilemma. So how many other parents miss out on exhibits
and programs because of a lack of child care?
How many visitors are museums losing in the process? What could do museums do improve this
situation? Are there ways to make both parents and kids happy, in the same building,
at the same time?
My local
supermarket has a supervised, secure children’s area where kids can play while
their parents shop during certain publicized hours. How
about implementing something similar at a museum, perhaps on weekends when more
moms and dads are able to take advantage of it, or during a special program or
opening event? Admittedly, this
requires not only a dedicated employee to staff the area but also the space and
some children’s toys or activities to keep the kids busy--or even better, learning
while doing. And sorry, but a fee for
such a service probably isn’t going to work.
We parents are already feeling pinched enough by the time we plunk down
the money to get in the front door.
Another,
less costly, option would be simply to have a kid-friendly play space without
the dedicated staff. My husband and I
would be very happy to have a dedicated area where we could take turns staying and
playing with our son.
One final point: if the museums in our area already have such areas available, we don’t know about it. Could this be a selling point for your museum?
- Erica